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I won’t be taking my Child to Visit Santa

I won’t be taking my Child to Visit Santa

Before I became a parent I would often think about how it would feel to take my child to visit Santa. In my head there was a choir singing carols, lots of well-behaved, rosy-cheeked kids in hats and scarves queuing with no fuss. Tastefully decorated grottos with a couple of reindeer outside. Oh how I laugh when I think about this scene. I look back and think about how naive pre-parent me was. I thought that having a child would help recapture the magic of Christmas that I felt as a child. But that isn’t quite how our first two christmasses as parents have gone.

It seems like a visit to Santa in his grotto is like a rite of passage for kids these days. When I was a kid I don’t remember my parents taking us to visit Santa but he always made an appearance at school Christmas parties.

Here are 5 reasons I won’t be taking my child to visit Santa.

Concept of Santa

I haven’t quite decided on how I feel about the concept of Santa. Mainly around where the gifts come from. I was brought up to think that all our gifts came from Santa (with the exception of ones that came from other family e.g. grandparents, aunts, uncles etc.).

However, over the past couple of years I’ve seen poorer parents asking other families to say that Santa has only bought one or two presents. This is so that their kids don’t think they’re on the ‘naughty’ list when the truth is that their parents couldn’t afford gifts rather than children being punished. Which takes me to my next point.

Naughty and Nice – Ugh

I hate the whole naughty and nice list thing which is why we won’t be doing elf on the shelf either. My parenting style is quite gentle and so I don’t believe that young children are ‘naughty’, but actually having a hard time themselves when they act up.

I also prefer intrinsic rather than extrinsic motivation where possible. Look, I’m not perfect and do occasionally resort to bribery especially where doctors and medicine are concerned. Christmas however, doesn’t fall into that category for me.


When we’ve been in places that have grottos in recent years there are always long queues. Queuing is rubbish whatever the time of year let alone November/December time when it is freezing outside. At the age she is now there’s no way Ragamuffin would have the patience to wait in line either.


The thought of taking my child to visit Santa makes me feel uneasy. It feels wrong to take her to meet a stranger in a small dimly lit room for a photo and a present, which brings me to my last point.

Crappy Gifts

Let’s be honest, it’s not like you get high quality gifts. It’s generally some cheap, heavily gendered tat. Which is just what you need in the run up to Christmas and the huge influx of stuff that enters your house when you have kids. No matter how much you try to keep a lid on it.

Why I won’t be taking my Child to Visit Santa

So there you have it my 5 reasons for not taking ragamuffin to visit Santa. I realise that there will be a lot of people who won’t agree with me, and that’s fine. This isn’t a post about judging or shaming other parents for taking their kids to visit Santa.

How do you feel about taking your kids to visit Santa? Do you agree or disagree with my views? Leave me a comment and let me know.

Image of a Santa's hat pinned to a wooden wall. Above this is the text I won't be taking my child to Visit Santa in pink writing against a bright green background.

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  1. We decided early on that we wouldn’t tell our children Santa is real for various reasons, including some of the ones you’ve mentioned. If we were at a school fair we’d offer my daughter the opportunity to see ‘someone dressed as Santa’ but she was never bothered. This year, at almost 6, she seems more interested but has still turned down the opportunity when it comes to it. She says she believes in Santa now but I suspect that’s just to fit in with her friends, she knows we fill her stocking!!

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